Learn About Living Life Deliberately with Bernice Fitzgibbon

Debilitating self-defeating beliefs are the errors in thinking that affect your view of yourself or others. You can get so carried away that you develop panic disorder, anxiety, and depression.

As an example, your beliefs impact everything you do. Every decision you make is based on your beliefs because they are made up of everything you know to be true.

The truth is that sometimes we believe things because of false memories or emotions. Then what? Is it possible to change? If yes, how can we disrupt our faulty belief system and improve it?

How Your Beliefs Influence Everything You Do

Ultimately, you become what you believe. The subconscious mind completely trusts the way you see the world and how you interpret certain things that happen to you in life, regardless of how good or bad they are for you.

This leads to a skewed view of how the world works based on your thoughts and emotions. In essence, you’re the one who’s preventing yourself from living a successful life filled with adventures and lots of joy.

Tony Robbins said it best: “The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.”

Faulty Beliefs: What Are They?

Faulty, or limiting, beliefs are the opinions and thoughts you believe to be 100% true. They’re so ingrained in your mind because you spend each day repeating them to yourself, like a mantra.

In some cases, you may blame other people, and the Universe in general, for everything that goes wrong in your life. What’s the reason? By holding onto false beliefs, you have convinced yourself that this is your reality.

Nevertheless, they are called limiting beliefs for a reason. Your growth as an individual is stunted and your personal and professional life is negatively affected. The result is that you feel stuck and incompetent, and that failure follows you everywhere you go.

Where do Come From?

On average, faulty beliefs are developed during our early childhood years. According to Dr. Bruce Lipton, the first seven years of our lives are extremely critical because our brains do nothing but soak in everything around them. This is how we form the basis of right vs. wrong, good vs. evil.

This is also the time when children who are loved and valued grow up with this inherent belief. Consequently, their relationships with themselves and others stem from that love and self-worth.

Sadly, the opposite is also true. Children who are neglected or abused become adults with a deep belief that they’re not worthy of love and affection.

Another way to look at it is that faulty beliefs are our way of defending ourselves against frustration, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions.

As a result, your subconscious brain tries to block further suffering by altering how you view yourself and the world around you. This manifests itself in many ways, and each of them has a negative effect on everything you do in life.

Take a look at some of the negative outcomes that are a by-product of faulty beliefs:

  • Anxiety
  • Conformism
  • Imposter syndrome
  • Overthinking
  • Perfectionism
  • procrastination

How to Identify Faulty Beliefs?

Let’s be honest, you can’t tell yourself you’re a winner one day, then wake up the following day believing it wholeheartedly. This is a process that takes time and patience. And you have to be willing to put in the work, but it’ll be so much worth it in the end.

Step 1: Listen to Your Thoughts

The first step in identifying faulty beliefs and self-defeating thought patterns is by really paying attention. The next time that little voice in your head tells you that you’re better off not doing something or having so-and-so, stop and listen.

Step 2: Challenge Limiting Beliefs

The second step is to challenge these beliefs head-on. When you have a negative thought, hit it back with two positive ones.

They don’t have to be big or anything fancy. Just think of something that makes you smile and brightens your day.

Then, slowly, day by day, you’ll notice that the nagging voices in your head are becoming weaker. They no longer drain your mental and emotional strength because they’ve been replaced by more positive thoughts.

Step 3: Develop Healthy Beliefs

In order to transform faulty beliefs into something healthier and more productive, you have to know your self-worth. Be proud of who you are and what you’ve accomplished, imperfections and all.

Then, armored with self-love and compassion, take one step outside your comfort zone. Consider something you intentionally avoid, such as social interactions.

To overcome this fear, you have to commit to engaging in a brief, meaningless conversation with one or two people each day. Putting yourself out there can be scary, just as many things in life can be.

And remember that it’s okay to be a bit awkward at times. Who isn’t?

But strong, optimistic people know there’s more to them than a few minutes of awkwardness. They’re more confident and comfortable in their own skin that they just shrug it off and keep on moving forward.

That’s why you have to keep at it. Continue to challenge your faulty beliefs so you can finally start seeing yourself and the world in a more accurate light, where hope and possibilities are within arm’s reach.